There is usually a ‘Honeymoon’ period even in abusive relationships.
This is sometimes referred to as the ‘bonding’ period.

We often hear from our clients “We were happy once. We can be happy again. I just need to try harder! To be firmer/ more understanding/ less needy e.t.c. e.t.c.”
After the initial violence, the perpetrator is usually sorry and will do anything to make amends. The violence is then followed by another ‘Honeymoon’ period. Unfortunately this period does not last long and a second act of violence occurs, then a third. This is what is known as The Cycle of Violence. The couple’s life becomes a cycle of events, a pattern that is hard to break.

Why do women stay?
Sometimes it is difficult for them to see and understand what is happening?
They are made to feel they are the cause of the abuse?
They have already bonded with their partner?
They are so intimidated they are afraid to try to leave?
They think they have no options?

.....This is a cycle of Emotional and Physical Abuse?

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